Bereavement and Suicide- supporting you through loss and grieving.
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Bereavement comes in many forms and affects young and old. We view and experience grief differently depending upon our age and life experience, therefore a child’s grief is often very different and dependent on their stage and age of development.
Some of us will experience grief after the death of our child; others will experience grief after a loved one has died by suicide. Most of us will grieve for the death of a parent during our adult life, while others will be faced with the death of a spouse or partner. The loss of an unborn child or abortion can also bring its own grief.
Anticipatory grief is also common as we prepare for the death of a loved one, or perhaps our own death.
Additionally many of us will seek support as we try to help our loved ones who have been bereaved cope. Whether you or your loved one has experienced grief, help is at hand for learning to understand and live through grief.
I think its important to know that in addition to bereavement, many other issues that we encounter throughout our lives can lead us to experience grief, after all grief is a loss, losses are experienced when we move, when our relationships break down and at many other times in our lives, whenever we experience loss, we can also experience grief.
In Your Own Time
Bereavement may be the most personal experience you will have in your lifetime. How you grieve is completely unique to you.
If you are reading this section then you probably have lost someone important to you, or it is likely that you are facing bereavement.
You might want to know how to prepare yourself for an expected loss and the events and challenges, which inevitably you will face.
Counselling supports and encourages the experience and expression of all that you are feeling. It can offer you a private space as you come to terms with the loss of that relationship, and as you witness the wider impact it can have on other relationships.
Each person’s experience is highly personal and unfolds in a unique way. There is no agenda and no timetable for grieving. In your own time, you grieve.
In my practice as a counsellor I have witnessed the process of grieving a person goes through after a loved one or a significant person has died. I have also sat with individuals who were anticipating the death of a loved one as they prepare themselves for the loss and the grieving that is to come.
How Bereavement Counselling Can help.
Bereavement counseling can offer support as you try to manage and cope with the all the adjustment and change. Like the stress and challenges of the funeral arrangements and the rituals of saying goodbye, or your family communications and expectations.
Counselling can also provide a place to talk about your experiences in the aftermath of bereavement as you move through feelings like immense sadness, solitude and loss.
Some people experience intense internal pressure to cope, disillusionment, or detachment from everyone and everything. Many feel loneliness, betrayal, abandonment and anger. Counselling can help you to untangle these feelings as you experience the life-affecting blow that losing someone you love can cause.
Bereavement counseling aims to create a personal, safe and comfortable space so that you can talk about everything you experience as you grieve the loss of someone important to you. In your own time you need to grieve.
Bereavement is one of the most profoundly affecting experiences a person will endure. The death of someone you love is painful, numbing, heart-breaking, infuriating, lonely and much more. The absence of your partner, or your mother, or your child can leave gapping holes in your heart and can undermine the meaning in everything you know. Death affects your willingness to engage with others, your beliefs, and your reason for getting up in the morning and how you sleep at night. Death affect you in many ways and how you manage the changes that grieving brings is truly a process that is unique to you.
Bereavement Preparation is a supportive counseling service for those who are facing loss through the death of someone important. Over the course of my practice people have come to counseling to talk about their concerns regarding the possible or inevitable death of a loved one. Conditions like terminal illness, elderly and infirm parents, life threatening surgery, and pregnancy complications are some of the concerns that were presented.
Above are some of the ranges of feelings triggered by bereavement, but the list is limitless. Each person’s experience and needs are unique.
Can we really prepare for death? Whether the journey is your own and you are facing the end of your life or you are anticipating the death of someone you know or love, is it possible to be ‘prepared’?
As soon as a person faces the distinct possibility that someone they love is going to die the bereavement process begins. Counselling offers a support as you try to come to terms with the challenges of facing death. Many aspects of your life can be affected and these changes may have a profound affect on how you cope and manage in the world around you.
The changes may be practical and unavoidable like loss of routine, privacy, finances and lifestyle and independence. Or the changes may take a more abstract form like feeling loss of direction, lack of motivation, a sense of foreboding and fear, or anxiety and panic.
Everyone experiences the anticipation of death, the passing of that person and the subsequent bereavement differently. Counselling supports and encourages the experience and expression of all that you are feeling.
Whether it is a private space for grieving, or an extra support as you manage and cope with the trauma of losing someone, or as you face your own death and try to prepare yourself. And most importantly, counselling will help you to find a way that you can feel and be present to everything that is happening to you in this time of turmoil, so that you can make the most of the time you have left with the people who are important to you, as you journey with them and as they journey with you.
Your time to grieve
Bereavement can make you feel like you are in a very isolated and dark place. Sometimes when you speak to close family, friends, relatives or partners what you need gets lost in their responses. Everyone struggles to find the right thing to say. Sometimes in that struggle, a person who is grieving does not get the opportunity to be with their sadness. Part of that sadness may be too personal to share with others who are close to you or it may be too difficult to share with these people who are also grieving...
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