Is It happening to me ?
Does your partner do any of the following ?
Always / Sometimes / Never (answer the following questions with Always/Sometimes/Never)
Does your Partner
- Put you down and humiliate you, in private and/or in public?
- Hurt you physically – e.g. by hitting, slapping, kicking or biting you?
- Make you have sex when you don’t want to?
- Control how the money is spent?
- Not want you to have your own friends?
- Threaten to take the children away?
- Threaten to harm or actually harm pets?
- Threaten to harm himself if you leave?
- Turn into a nicer person outside the house?
- Apologise and promise that he won’t do it again, but he does
- Destroy your things or smash up the furniture?
- Afraid for yourself and/or your children?
- Feeling guilty or ashamed about what is happening?
- Isolated with no one to talk to?
- Afraid to express an opinion when he is around?
- Not beaten physically, but torn apart emotionally?
- Hiding bruises or making excuses for injuries caused by him?
- Finding it hard to be enthusiastic about life?
- Always watching what you say or do so he won’t get angry?
- Feeling like you’re going mad or wishing it was all over?
If you answered ‘Always’ or ‘Sometimes’ to one or more of these questions, it is likely that you are living with domestic abuse. You are not alone, 1 in 5 women experience domestic abuse. Women from all walks of life experience domestic abuse, it can begin at any stage in a relationship. It is not easy to accept that someone you love and have trusted is being abusive towards you, but it is important to remember that it is not your fault. I am here to support you and additionally put you in touch with services that can help.
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